Why do good guys get blamed?

Why do good guys get blamed?

Today’s Spiritual Perspective is for the guys—the spiritual guys.

Not the performative “nice guys,”
But the men who genuinely try to show up—with heart, presence, and integrity.

And yet, when things end, something unexpected happens:

The story that gets told about you doesn’t quite match the truth you lived.

Suddenly, you’re the narcissist.
The one who was emotionally unavailable.
The one who didn’t want to grow.
Or worse…

It’s a confusing—and often painful—experience.
Especially when you know you did your best.

This episode explores a dynamic that almost every conscious man has faced—but few truly understand:

Why do good men so often become the villain in her version of the breakup story?

It’s not just emotional.
And it’s not always personal.
There’s something deeper going on—rooted in the difference between male and female nature.
.

.

Here’s what you’ll take away:

• Why men and women often remember the same breakup in completely different ways

• How post-breakup blame is tied to evolutionary wiring, not just emotion

• The deeper reason why some women need to paint the man as the bad guy in order to move on

• What spiritually grounded men can do when the story being told doesn’t match the reality

• A perspective shift that brings clarity, compassion—and closure

I’ve been through it myself—more than once.
And once I understood the spiritual mechanism behind it, everything changed.

Ladies—you’re more than welcome to watch.
Just know: this episode may challenge you.
But if you can take it in with openness, it might also illuminate some of your own past patterns.

Remember: being spiritual means holding multiple truths at the same time.
And in breakups? That’s more relevant than ever.

Watch the episode here. 
Drop your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear your perspective.
Let’s open up a conversation we all benefit from.

With love,

Light

P.S. The small things you do daily matter more than the big things you do once in a while. Let The Year You Transform show you the way.
.

.

If a friend forwarded this, click here to subscribe to The Spiritual Perspective newsletter.

My passions include keynote speaking, leading meditation retreats, hosting my podcast, and writing self-help books, like Travel Light, Knowing Where to Look, Bliss More, and The Inner Gym. I’ve also got a thriving online community with fun challenges and masterclasses for becoming the best version of you. You can see more about me at lightwatkins.com or follow my journey on Instagram.